What scares me the most about people meeting me for the first time is that I'm so plain, so shy, pretty low-brow. I can't think of things to say and I'm awfully boring. My friend and I have long silences and then both start to talk at once. She is a social wallflower, too. We're a great bunch! She usually handles it by finding something to do--help with food, clean-up or anything that makes her feel useful instead of a lump. I'm not so industrious. I don't think she's as concerned about what other people think of her, the way you and I are, but just so sensitive to not fitting in. I often point out to her that in most of the specific circumstances where she's been feeling like that, so have all the other people there!

And I think that does go for a lot of folk. The 'in' that we're trying so hard to fit, doesn't exist! There are those who tend to group together and make a tight little clique to which they can feel they belong, but that's usually in response to them NOT feeling part of the remainder where they think everyone else does fit. Aren't we a funny species?